This morning I had an interview with a young woman, age 25, who is writing a book about her decision-making process related to whether or not be have children. She spoke candidly about how all of her friends now have babies, and she is feeling subtle and not so subtle pressure from them to follow along. She expressed frustration with the lack of available literature on perhaps the most life-changing decision we make in our lives. I implored her to continue to explore this and I gave a few suggestions on how to proceed. One practical step to take is to intentionally take time to be in the homes of friends with children, for an overnight visit if possible, so that she can get a sense of what daily living is like. She should also do the same in the home of a single friend or couple who don’t have children. Ask questions of these people and use both your emotional sense and your logical self to evaluate carefully.

Chris Portman the surfing dude