I came across an article last week on the web discussing Jennifer Anniston’s magazine cover photo. In the picture, she was holding a teddy bear, and the author of the web comment suggested that she was using the bear as a baby subsitute. The implication was that she really wanted to have a baby of her own to hold. This is a great example of how much of society jumps to the conclusion that women who don’t have kids are unnurturing, cold, and lack the need for affection. If we seek out affection or behave in a nurturing way, it must mean that we wish we had a child. Why not take the position instead that women who don’t have kids have the same needs for affection and are just as nurturing as anyone else, but that we meet these needs in different ways.