Childfree Does Not Mean Cold and Unnurturing

I came across an article last week on the web discussing Jennifer Anniston’s magazine cover photo. In the picture, she was holding a teddy bear, and the author of the web comment suggested that she was using the bear as a baby subsitute. The implication was that she really wanted to have a baby of her own to hold. This is a great example of how much of society jumps to the conclusion that women who don’t have kids are unnurturing, cold, and lack the need for affection. If we seek out affection or behave in a nurturing way, it must mean that we wish we had a child. Why not take the position instead that women who don’t have kids have the same needs for affection and are just as nurturing as anyone else, but that we meet these needs in different ways.


  1. Patricia Bass
    Posted April 25, 2011 at 1:09 pm | Permalink

    A fortune teller told a friend of mine, once shown my picture, that I would make a wonderful parent. It has never even crossed my mind to become a parent and I will be 60 years old this year. I have raised 5 dogs and 8 cats in my lifetime and I belong to an animal rescue group where I foster adoptable animals, so I guess that is where I have fulfilled my need to “nurture”.

  2. Ellen
    Posted July 31, 2011 at 12:13 pm | Permalink

    I’m always happy to hear from someone who is older (just by a few years) than me with the confirmation that you haven’t felt regrets. I just got a new puppy, 8 weeks old, and it’s really a joy to raise her along with my other two dogs.

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